On Love Blogs and The Like
I’ve bloghopped. I am not amused with the other posts.
I know people fall in love a lot of times. I’m eighteen. I’ve fallen for someone before and got hurt because of reasons like that. I understand how people feel when they’re falling in love and when they’re hurting, so I think I can tell everyone right now…
…to snap out of this stupidity in an instant.
I’m not really saying that writing about your feelings is annoying. I’m saying that you say you’re going to be okay, but those are lies. You post crapload of stuff about moving on when…YOU STILL POST A CRAPLOAD OF STUFF ABOUT MOVING ON! How can you move on when you’re always talking about how to move freakin’ on?! You’ll just keep remembering. It’s like “okay, here goes. I’m trying to forget you by writing about this feeling!!!” Are you waiting for me to serve you an ice cold slap on the fez? Because I can give you one for free as long as you’re doing this.
See, being sad about it is part of the feeling. But if you say you’re gonna forget about him, it’s not enough to forget the past. The feeling needs to be forgotten, too. Writing about it once is enough to cry away the bad feeling, but making more and more writings about it is a different thing. It’s more like keeping the pain, nourishing it, making it grow until it becomes a big monster. You need to understand how writing works. When you fall in love, it’s not like love is all that there is. We, girls, have brains. And we don’t just use it. We use it the right way.
I advise you to distract yourself. Play with yourself (don’t be dirty, pervert). These are the times that people becomes, liek, 30000x creative. Yeah, when I’m hurt or what, my creative juices come out so I take advantage of it. Maybe it’ll work for you, too?
That’s pretty much everything that I’d like to say. Stop the drama. If love left where it was once, there’s no reason for you to stay anymore. Don’t hope for a second chance. If there’s a second chance, it will come chasing you. So please stop this idiocracy. It’s killing me.
And take this from me, just for encouragement: When you’re hurt or what, and then you break down and cry, it’s cool you know. It proves that what you’ve had was sincere. Write it down, have emo days. Listen to songs, whatever. You might even do stupid things, but that’s still cool. BUT don’t overdo it. If it had been months after everything and you’re still in that condition, you’re uncool now. SO UNFREAKINCOOL.
Your heart is a muscle and therefore it’s supposed to be strong. 
So cut the crap and start partying with me. \:D/
'Sup? My name's Chiui. I am currently living in a huge ass sandcastle known for its 0% crime rate. Also a lover of the scent of crayons. I like making lists. Will never be caught sporting a mohawk. Pasta drives me crazy. I am sometimes unnecessarily mean.
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Biang
Love your post & I agree with you! That’s why sometimes I don’t leave comment or I just read different topics of their blogs. LOL
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Luna
Feels guilty. =| Before, when I first had a serious heartbreak… I blogged about it… in my former blog. HAHA. Well, it helped me ease the pain a bit. But then it was only once. =P A moving-on post… but I didn’t blog about it the second time around. :]]
And you are so correct. How are you going to move on if you keep reminiscing the hurtful feelings? Masochist! So unhealthy. =|
Nice post! Like!
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Lym
Writing about something makes you remember it. That’s one thing that I have learned through these years of writing (and keeping them) about the things going on in my life. I can’t help to go back and read about the things that happened in the past.
). Well, I like to make things look old. 
I don’t post love-related things in my blog (I mean, love stories or heartaches involving myself) because I don’t have things like that right now and even if I have, I don’t think that it would be worth “bragging” or at least, telling the world that I do have one.
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About your other post, the couple sure are irritating. I hate it when couples do things like that. They’re in a public transportation, yet, they didn’t mind the people who are around them. How disappointing.
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About your comment on my blog post, I didn’t use SLR/DSLR cam. I used digi-cam (because I don’t have any of the two cams mentioned), sharpened the image, and played a little bit with colors using Adobe Photoshop 7 (it’s already outdated, I know
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Chiui Reply:
March 30th, 2010 at 9:16 am
@Lym, I like making things old, too!
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im a canadian
Canadians are wonderful, therefore we do not feel heartbreak.
Yes.
/sarcasm ):
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Chiui Reply:
March 30th, 2010 at 9:21 am
@im a canadian, awwwwwwwwwwwwww kevvviiiiiin \(ㅇㅈㅇ)/
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Rose
Agreed.
Moving on means forgetting the past, and there is no way you can do that when your constantly reminding yourself of it. Sometimes I wonder if it really is love when they keep going on about the pain etc like that. Maybe it’s just the need to be in love? And whoever it is, just happened to have been with them for a very long time.
Sure breaking up is painful when you really liked someone, but wouldn’t you think of the better times regardless and appriciate that you spent that time with them as long as it lasted rather than complain about everything?
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Joebs
I noticed that too. I don’t think one could move forward with their life if they keep on dwelling on it. I’m not saying it’s bad but..come on. I mean, it’s not like there’s no tomorrow to look forward to anymore.
And I love this line — “Your heart is a muscle and therefore it’s supposed to be strong.”
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tiff k
AGREEE!! Nice post Chiui mahh love! XD
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ann
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Thurr
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Kimeh
Aw, I so agree.
There are even posts that blab about girl stuff and apparently I’m a boy.
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Jihyeon
Hi Chiui, guess whooooo.
She probably has not moved on yet. Maybe her pain is just a bit deeper and it is taking a little longer because she is in denial. But then I don’t really know her situation so I can’t say.
I had a friend who took a year until she was talking crap about him. HAHAHA. XD
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jeniffer
Exactly. That’s the reason why I don’t post much about love.. well you see I’ve never done it for a long time.. because I know the feeling of reading a depress blog.. But you know what, I don’t have anything against them because it’s their blog..
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stevevhan
whoa, for me naman i love posting love-related for the people to know ( you know, im a talkative one), but atleast if you were hurt learn to move on. For me, blogging is about posting your feelings and based on my experience after you post about, the feelings starts to disappear cause you already wrote that for release that’s when you start a fresh start again and try to make new post for the reader become more interested and if you still want to talk about it try to do it wit just a little, a very minimal look back.
happy Blogging. who’s that blogger anyway?haha. kidding!(gossip!)
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Gel
I’m a bit half and half with this post. Yeah you have some good points that it’s best to be strong about the situation right after you’ve poured it all out once, but sometimes people have different ways of coping with their “hurt”, too. It’s their personal space so they can pretty much do anything with it. If they decide for their blog, for example, to be a “moving on” blog, so be it. Yeah, it can get pretty sick to the readers of getting to read the same freaking thing over and over again but maybe it helps THEM in such a way that they have an outlet to pour out their feelings, right? After all it’s best to pour it all out than let’s say, commit suicide, just coz you’re feeling suppressed, right? Hehe. Just my two cents
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Chiui Reply:
April 3rd, 2010 at 1:16 am
@Gel, maybe I just don’t believe that it really helps them XD
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Jaycee
Super Agree.
it gets 
when people ‘constantly’ post something about those kinds of stuff. It’s like the same thing, but posted in different dates. Hahaha.
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April
I guess it’s okay that they post love blogs all over again if that’s their way of moving on. We can’t really tell how a person moves on. It’s different from one another. Like me, I’d rather write them up in a private place (like my planner, perhaps) than publishing it in the web. I don’t want people to read my whole life. But maybe some people make blogging their outlet of moving on, entertaining themselves if that’s how they cope on heartbreaks.
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Chiui Reply:
April 3rd, 2010 at 1:18 am
@April, yeah but I just dont believe in moving on through writing about it over and over again.
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Georgina
I always thought you were older than me! I am 18 but turn 19 in May.
Often a lot of people make the mistake of talking on and on about their failed and past loves and saying that they will move on. But you’re right - how can people move on if they keep thinking about it? Even if they are pushing themselves to move on, they’re only saying more and more about what upset them in the first place. It’s simple - just do it. Do it.
Some people need a distraction from what hurt them. Love leaves for a reason; you cannot coerce it back. It just wasn’t made for the two of you, whoever that may be. It doesn’t work out sometimes and instead of dwelling on it, just enjoy what else you have in life - it isn’t the end of the world.
Definitely agree with you 100%. Love yourself and have fun with yourself (no dirties). 
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Jogz
I soooo agree!
We have the same perception about that. I have also friend who’s like that.. `Yeah, I’ll forget him..` But always ending up telling stories about him. Plus, even saying that she hates him.. More like, “Magsama sila..” But then, she goes on and on.. One time I told her, “Pano mo siya makakalimutan kung siya bukambibig mo?” That time I just really wanted to close my ears.. It irritates me much to hear unending “ended love stories..”
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Mikyu
bingo! you just hit bull’s eye. hahaha. i actually found your post amusing, chiui. somehow, i can relate. hmm. i’m 20 years old, i’ve had several crushes from the past, but i think i’ve been in love only once. i think i still am until now, with the same guy. i’ve been hurt a lot, tried to move on, but can’t. i know it’s partly my fault coz there’s something in me that refuses to forget him. and i’d say it’s his fault, too, for being a kinda conceited guy, making me fall without having the intention of catching me. hahaha, okay, stop the blaming. but really, i’m in a confusing situation right now and i don’t even want to think about what to do anymore coz it’ll make it more confusing. *sigh*
anyway, i missed you chiui! and your posts! hahahaha. it’s been a long time since i blog-hopped. busy one here. tsk. but i guess i’m back? hope so. hahaha.
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JEANU | oh-some
hey im speechless! :)) very well said!!! I dont know what to comments else haha. This post makes me smile, haha seriously. LOVE THIS POST ;;] .
Will keep this as an advice form you. witwew. Time to move one! \\m//
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JEANU | oh-some Reply:
April 2nd, 2010 at 6:24 pm
@JEANU | oh-some, aww remove the “e” from “one” :)) haha. it should be “on” pardon me //
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Je
ditto!
ranting about the pain etc. would do more damage than good. I wish some girls would realize that coz they’re just making it harder for themselves. 
and it’s tad annoying too coz they start to sound like they’re whiny and helpless even though they’re not 
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Pam
Hmmmm I agree on some points, on some meh. But we all have our own opinion on things
I believe, like you do, that it’s not right to be moping around because that person (the one you love) SHOULDN’T be the center of your universe. You have God, family, friends, studies, the list goes on. Yes, that person may be the most important one for you, but still, it ain’t love if you depended on him/her so much that you breakdown and just be dysfunctional when he/she left. HAHAHA.
But I can also say that some comments here are also right, that it could be there way of coping and surviving the whole hurt trauma
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Karen
I super agree!
your post got me thinking also…although i’ve wrote most of my feelings in my secret diary and still when i read about those things makes me feel irritated of myself and yeah i’ve learned from my past experiences and there’s still alot of things to learn… and you are right, how can you move on when you keep talking about moving on 
yeah!
I love this last part. “Your heart is a muscle and therefore it’s supposed to be strong.
So cut the crap and start partying with me. \:D/” 
oh and i get a twitter authentication that pops out every time i open your site that requires username and pass but i just close it but just telling you about it.
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